Ever observe things in every day life that 'gets your goat?' For instance, you hold the door for the person behind you and lo and behold, not a word of thanks or acknowledgement of your consideration. Should that action discourage you from doing it in the future or do you simply chalk up the lack of courtesy to oblivious people? Would it have been better to simply let the door slam in their face?
Another pet peeve I have (is it just me?) is seeing shoppers transfer items from cart to car and when done, leaving the cart at its last position of use to them. The cart becomes the next guy's problem as it blocks the adjacent vehicle from backing out. It's almost comedic to watch the reaction of those who approach the situation especially when a 'return cart area' is but a few feet away!
Just this morning I was admiring the nice weather on my drive to work when the driver in front of me pokes their hand through the sun roof and releases a wrapper of some sort. The wind just gobbled it up into the air and who knows where it will land to litter up a otherwise manicured landscape. What an exhilarating cheap thrill that must have been (sarcasm intended)!
Wrong things get my goat. What does anyone do with a peeved reaction? Whatever the response is will most likely influence your outlook for that moment in time.
What do you do with frustration? If you rant - you have to take into account that it probably won't accomplish much.
The truth and telling it without anger might be best served by changing the reaction to what gets you upset. That's all anyone can be responsible for. Doesn't mean that the things you see around you aren't as bad...(they are). Instead of reacting to things, try doing what it is that makes you feel good. At least there's comfort in knowing you can do better than the thoughtless stuff you can't control.
Rudeness in others is one of my pet peeves, too. You are so right about our reactions - we have a choice there. I choose to remain civil. :)
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Blessings!
A couple weeks ago I pulled into a parking lot that tilts to the center and the drain. there were so many carts in it I had to weave and bob to get into a spot. While my son went into the store I started gathering the carts and putting them in the cart return. Before I was done a lady came in and started helping me. We both expressed our frustration but felt better for what we had done. The next car wouldn't have to traverse an obstacle course to park and neither would we on our way out. I realize they have people that get paid for this but it made my day better to do it and I met a really nice lady. I can't pick up everyone's litter or make them be courteous, but I can mind my own behavior and response. Thank you for the post.
ReplyDeleteJust because others are rude doesn't mean we behave like them too. They are being who they are , we should be us too.
ReplyDeleteThese things you mention, do without doubt peeve me. I particularly don't like those that don't thank us for something we do, like holding door open, maybe letting them out in front of us when driving, but you can't afford to let it trouble you for more thn a second, you just got to let it go or we allow them and their bad manners to effect us probably all day.
ReplyDeleteSo true all the comments here and so good to hear how you deal with momentary lapses of courtesy! Thank you for commenting! Have an awesome weekend!
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